One of the things you stumble upon through adulthood, is that not everyone is going to like you.
That’s the harsh reality.
I don’t know whether there’s a sense of naivety when growing up, because to be honest, I was blindsided by this. You also learn the harsh reality that people are exceptionally good at lying to each other’s faces.
In kindergarten, making friends is easy. In primary, it’s still easier, though you start to see the competition beginning to develop between the kids. By high school, you’re forming bonds and friendships that you hope will leave with you into adulthood.
And then adulthood hits you with a reality you didn’t see coming – you may or may not have been living a lie.
I’ve watched as friendships continue to fade and fall apart after high school, and even after varsity. You learn that the person who you thought would be one of your bridesmaids actually can’t stand you. You learn that the people who you thought adored your opinion actually think you’re conceited and you know nothing.
You very quickly learn that social media likes mean nothing.
For whatever reason, people have equated how much someone is liked, by the number of followers they have, and how many likes they get on their posts and pictures. The reality of the situation is that most people are following each other on social media because they want to know what is happening in each other’s lives for the sake of being nosy.
It’s rare that they’re genuinely happy for you.
Everyone is going through their own things, and growing up shows you that we all experience problems on different scales. You also start to nit-pick people’s personalities and you very quickly establish who gels with you and who rubs you the wrong way.
For me, going into the workplace showed me this. I have nothing against anyone I work with. What I’m getting at is the different personalities you come across. On top of personalities, you have backstories, and you learn that not everyone reacts to situations in the same way that you do.
Not knowing how to navigate this can result is some major clashes.
Now, there are two ways that this can work out for you. You can either find yourself dependent on the approval of other people, or you can just live your life without a care for what others have to say about it. I’ve found that it takes a lot of bravery to move from the former to the latter, especially if you’ve always been ‘adored’ by people.
There are some things that you wish you could’ve been told before adulthood, but then you realize that sometimes it’s about going through something to fully understand what comes with it. Live your own life because as they say, whether you’re flourishing or failing, people will always have something to say.
And not everyone is going to like you, so just roll with it.